Guilt. When You Are A Parent, You Feel Guilty
It’s just how it is. Regardless of what the issue is, you hovered over your kids, you worked too hard, you regret using child care, or you were too permissive, the fact is, because you are thinking about it means you ARE A great parent.
What matters most is letting your family know how much you care about them. Kids who feel loved as children grow up to be better people, better parents themselves, more successful, happier and contribute to the world more. The feeling of being loved can overcome any number of circumstances for a child.
And, if a child feels loved through these exact same circumstances, truly and thoroughly loved and accepted, he doesn’t just survive them, he thrives. He takes the hard times and turns them into teachings. He is a joy to be around because he is so in service to life itself. He is loved by all because he knows the love of his parents.
It’s what makes life really matter, right? Knowing you’ve parented your kids well and left them well-prepared for the future — safe, secure and full of self-love.
Is there really anything more important than that?
Have You Figured Out Everything For The Day You CAN’T Be There For Them?
It’s not a pleasant topic to talk about wealth.
Yet, those who do not take the time to make these decisions run the risk of a judge making them for you. When that happens, it is not likely the results will be what you would have wanted. Your children will wonder: Why didn’t Mom take care of these things that really matter?
Day after day the Courts process cases of families who have lost a loved one. The overworked, underpaid, harried and hurried Judge to make the critical decisions you’ve struggled with yourself, and to do so with limited or no information.
Decisions such as who will be the guardian of the children left behind, who will make financial decisions for the family until all children have become adults and who will take care of ensuring it’s all done well are left up to a stranger who doesn’t know you, love you, or really even care about you.
When you make the decisions about these things (and document the decisions properly), you are doing the right thing by your children. Through this, they KNOW and FEEL secure, confident and understand that you prepared for them to lead successful lives and careers.
Engaging in the process of making decisions for your kids in the event that something happens to you and getting clear on the kind of beliefs you want them to take into the world, makes you a better parent. The best part is that even though you are planning your wealth for a long-time in the future or an eventuality that may never happen, it makes you a better parent immediately.
